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Kari West's avatar

I find that idea of the one in three really helpful when it comes to writing. I’ve had to learn in general to hold all my early drafting loosely and not get too tied to any of it because I just don’t know what’s going to come under the knife in the next round of editing.

& then at some point, I have to trust my instincts that a story is done—even though I know if I read it a year from now, that perfectionism is gonna ring out again with everything I’d want to change. But at the end of the day, I’d rather create several things that are good enough then spend my whole life trying to make one perfect thing.

Alicia Pollard's avatar

Bethany, I'm also a perfectionist, so the 1 in 3 principle is so helpful! As is the skeleton frames idea. It makes me think about one type of rehearsal you can do in theatre: a "circus run," in which the whole cast acts in an intentionally melodramatic, intensely-emotional way as they run through the play as a way of experimenting with new ways of delivering lines and using gestures. I guess the writing equivalent would be drafting without scrutinizing every paragraph for perfection before you write another one?

Perfectionism in writing feels different than perfectionism in house-cleaning, or math tests, or other areas of life. I struggle with wanting a story that is "perfect" in the sense that it has just the right shape, the right atmosphere, and the right ending. Unfortunately, that's not just a matter of effort; it's a matter of inspiration, which you can't manufacture. Leaving it for a while and coming back to it is helpful, though. 😊

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